Have you ever tried, or thought about trying, online dating to increase your options when it comes to meeting women? If so, I'm going to take a wild guess and assume that you have become completely frustrated with it and even given up...
...maybe more than once.
How can I be so certain of this? Because marketing research reveals that over 90% of men who try online dating give up within the first three months. And can you guess what the reason is? Lack of responses.
Now, I don't know about you but I think it's pretty safe to assume that anything with a 90% failure rate seriously flawed. But just imagine how wonderful it would be if online dating really worked!
Well guess what? Thankfully, it is possible to get results...as long as you understand these secrets of online dating...
1. Expect Some Rejection
Okay, this might not sound like very positive advice. But having unrealistic expectations about responses from women is a sure way to end up disappointed and disillusioned. You can expect one out of ten you write to to respond at all...and that's even WITH applying the right strategy.
One thing that you ought to know right off the bat is that there are online dating sites that create false female profiles in order to attract more male members. On top of this, there are men who send rude responses to women who reject them and therefore some women won't bother to respond at all if they are not interested.
This is not to mention that on dating sites (just like in real life), there is almost always a large percentage of women who are just "window shopping," but who aren't really serious about meeting someone.
2. Watch Your Grammar
Have you ever heard the saying that you can't judge a book by its cover? This is true, but you can judge whether or not you decide to read the book. If your profile is full of grammatical errors, incomplete sentences and ramblings about irrelevant topics, you're probably not going to get many responses...if any.
Even if you are a poor writer, you can usually come up with something fairly decent if you put some work into it (and don't forget about spell check). A good piece of advice would be to spend a few hours working on your profile, and even go back occasionally and make sure that it is well-written.
3. Talk about What You Want
If you've read even a handful of profiles, you've probably seen those people who write things like: "No liars, drug addicts, or mama's boys. No one who is after just a one night stand or who doesn't have any manners. No-"
Damn, how about me what DO you want? Everyone has had bad experiences in their life... men and women alike. What good does it do to continue to ramble on about yours to someone who has their own problems?
Besides, how many people would read a profile like that and go: "Wow, I'm a liar, a drug addict, a mama's boy and a loser who is just looking for one night stand. I'm glad she told me that... I'll just keep looking."
You get the idea. If you don't have a positive response to this kind of rambling... you can bet that the woman isn't going to either.
4. Don't "Date" Online
Seriously, online dating is a very bad idea. But meeting a woman online is not a bad idea at all. By this, I mean you should use the Internet dating site as a place to connect with her, but set up a meeting in person as soon as possible. How many times have you built a "connection" with someone on the Internet or by phone only to have it deflate in person?
Don't waste your time flirting with someone online who might end up being completely different in person (she may have even posted false photos). Just meet her online and let the dating happen in person.
5. Timing is Everything
The amount of responses you get from women is completely dependent upon the time that you send your e-mails. For men, timing may not be that big of a deal. But for most women, it's a REALLY big deal.
For best results, send your e-mails on Saturday morning or, even better, on Sunday morning. This is because your e-mail will arrive right after she has gone out on the weekend hoping to meet someone, and has not. She'll be frustrated and probably be more likely to read your e-mail.
6. Post Good Pictures
You've probably heard that a picture is worth 1000 words haven't you? The question is: What kinds of words are your profile pictures conveying? Make sure that your pictures are clear and that they show you doing fun things and spending time with people you know.
This will show her that you are a person of high social value and give her an idea of what you are interested in. Oh, and no pictures of you posing in front of a mirror with your shirt off. Just a thought.
...maybe more than once.
How can I be so certain of this? Because marketing research reveals that over 90% of men who try online dating give up within the first three months. And can you guess what the reason is? Lack of responses.
Now, I don't know about you but I think it's pretty safe to assume that anything with a 90% failure rate seriously flawed. But just imagine how wonderful it would be if online dating really worked!
Well guess what? Thankfully, it is possible to get results...as long as you understand these secrets of online dating...
1. Expect Some Rejection
Okay, this might not sound like very positive advice. But having unrealistic expectations about responses from women is a sure way to end up disappointed and disillusioned. You can expect one out of ten you write to to respond at all...and that's even WITH applying the right strategy.
One thing that you ought to know right off the bat is that there are online dating sites that create false female profiles in order to attract more male members. On top of this, there are men who send rude responses to women who reject them and therefore some women won't bother to respond at all if they are not interested.
This is not to mention that on dating sites (just like in real life), there is almost always a large percentage of women who are just "window shopping," but who aren't really serious about meeting someone.
2. Watch Your Grammar
Have you ever heard the saying that you can't judge a book by its cover? This is true, but you can judge whether or not you decide to read the book. If your profile is full of grammatical errors, incomplete sentences and ramblings about irrelevant topics, you're probably not going to get many responses...if any.
Even if you are a poor writer, you can usually come up with something fairly decent if you put some work into it (and don't forget about spell check). A good piece of advice would be to spend a few hours working on your profile, and even go back occasionally and make sure that it is well-written.
3. Talk about What You Want
If you've read even a handful of profiles, you've probably seen those people who write things like: "No liars, drug addicts, or mama's boys. No one who is after just a one night stand or who doesn't have any manners. No-"
Damn, how about me what DO you want? Everyone has had bad experiences in their life... men and women alike. What good does it do to continue to ramble on about yours to someone who has their own problems?
Besides, how many people would read a profile like that and go: "Wow, I'm a liar, a drug addict, a mama's boy and a loser who is just looking for one night stand. I'm glad she told me that... I'll just keep looking."
You get the idea. If you don't have a positive response to this kind of rambling... you can bet that the woman isn't going to either.
4. Don't "Date" Online
Seriously, online dating is a very bad idea. But meeting a woman online is not a bad idea at all. By this, I mean you should use the Internet dating site as a place to connect with her, but set up a meeting in person as soon as possible. How many times have you built a "connection" with someone on the Internet or by phone only to have it deflate in person?
Don't waste your time flirting with someone online who might end up being completely different in person (she may have even posted false photos). Just meet her online and let the dating happen in person.
5. Timing is Everything
The amount of responses you get from women is completely dependent upon the time that you send your e-mails. For men, timing may not be that big of a deal. But for most women, it's a REALLY big deal.
For best results, send your e-mails on Saturday morning or, even better, on Sunday morning. This is because your e-mail will arrive right after she has gone out on the weekend hoping to meet someone, and has not. She'll be frustrated and probably be more likely to read your e-mail.
6. Post Good Pictures
You've probably heard that a picture is worth 1000 words haven't you? The question is: What kinds of words are your profile pictures conveying? Make sure that your pictures are clear and that they show you doing fun things and spending time with people you know.
This will show her that you are a person of high social value and give her an idea of what you are interested in. Oh, and no pictures of you posing in front of a mirror with your shirt off. Just a thought.
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