Women test men. They have to, it's the only way that they can find out if you're "datable." Now, before you think about asking a woman about this, just let me tell you this:
Women will never admit this. They can't. It would be giving away the secret weapon to how they sort through their qualified prospects. Just think about how many "offers" the average woman gets in a week, a month or a year. She has to have a way to get past all the illusions that men put up (which everyone does in their dating life) so that they can find out what he is really like.[Read: How To Confince A Guy You Are A Good Guy]
But don't worry! This article will give you the details on why women test men and what you can do about it...
First, Most Tests Are Unreasonable
...and women know this. That's the whole point. A woman will test a man to find out one thing: if he is man enough to stay the course and to keep his confidence and independence of decision making under pressure. Pretty smart when you think about it...what better way to tell whether or not a man has the steel in his backbone to be a good partner?
Men who are willing to bend to a woman when she's being bratty, over demanding, pushy or unreasonable, lack confidence because they attach their sense of value and their independence to a woman's approval. This weakness tells a woman one thing: that you don't have what it takes to meet her need for safety and security. [Read: How To Stay Out Of Friend Zone]
Again, women won't admit this openly, and most of them aren't even aware that they are doing it. But women WILL throw out tests to find out what kind of a man you are: little jabs at your ego, getting pouty when they don't get their way, making demands that contradict one another and leave you in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" position.
This is not because women are bad. It's the only line of defense that they have and actually a pretty clever way to find out if you're man enough to stay the course, or if you're going to bend under pressure.
"Passing" a Woman's Test
Okay, here is the deal when it comes to passing a woman's tests: you have to recognize that you are being tested. This is easy, because it will seem that she is "playing a game" with you or acting irrational about something i.e. trying to get you to change the way that you dress, to stop talking to a friend of yours, or other attempts to control or mother you.
Women don't do this because they want to control you, they do it to see whether or not you're strong enough to resist them...and to do it with respect. So how do you resist them with respect?
Teasing Her with Humor
When a woman throws out a test, that's the perfect time to tease her about it. A little tease or joke about how she's "used to men who bend to her every wish" is perfect. Why? Because that's exactly what she's used to hearing, and she's bored with it.
She's looking for a man who has the guts to be a man, and if you make fun of the dudes who have been taking the "Oh sorry baby, whatever you want," route, you'll skyrocket your value in her eyes.
This is especially important if she is very attractive. The more attractive a woman is, the more she'll test you, and the more confident you have to be in not playing her game.
This is solid gold and can turn your results around on a dime. So get to work on setting yourself apart from the crow of clones out there.
Women will never admit this. They can't. It would be giving away the secret weapon to how they sort through their qualified prospects. Just think about how many "offers" the average woman gets in a week, a month or a year. She has to have a way to get past all the illusions that men put up (which everyone does in their dating life) so that they can find out what he is really like.[Read: How To Confince A Guy You Are A Good Guy]
But don't worry! This article will give you the details on why women test men and what you can do about it...
First, Most Tests Are Unreasonable
...and women know this. That's the whole point. A woman will test a man to find out one thing: if he is man enough to stay the course and to keep his confidence and independence of decision making under pressure. Pretty smart when you think about it...what better way to tell whether or not a man has the steel in his backbone to be a good partner?
Men who are willing to bend to a woman when she's being bratty, over demanding, pushy or unreasonable, lack confidence because they attach their sense of value and their independence to a woman's approval. This weakness tells a woman one thing: that you don't have what it takes to meet her need for safety and security. [Read: How To Stay Out Of Friend Zone]
Again, women won't admit this openly, and most of them aren't even aware that they are doing it. But women WILL throw out tests to find out what kind of a man you are: little jabs at your ego, getting pouty when they don't get their way, making demands that contradict one another and leave you in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" position.
This is not because women are bad. It's the only line of defense that they have and actually a pretty clever way to find out if you're man enough to stay the course, or if you're going to bend under pressure.
"Passing" a Woman's Test
Okay, here is the deal when it comes to passing a woman's tests: you have to recognize that you are being tested. This is easy, because it will seem that she is "playing a game" with you or acting irrational about something i.e. trying to get you to change the way that you dress, to stop talking to a friend of yours, or other attempts to control or mother you.
Women don't do this because they want to control you, they do it to see whether or not you're strong enough to resist them...and to do it with respect. So how do you resist them with respect?
Teasing Her with Humor
When a woman throws out a test, that's the perfect time to tease her about it. A little tease or joke about how she's "used to men who bend to her every wish" is perfect. Why? Because that's exactly what she's used to hearing, and she's bored with it.
She's looking for a man who has the guts to be a man, and if you make fun of the dudes who have been taking the "Oh sorry baby, whatever you want," route, you'll skyrocket your value in her eyes.
This is especially important if she is very attractive. The more attractive a woman is, the more she'll test you, and the more confident you have to be in not playing her game.
This is solid gold and can turn your results around on a dime. So get to work on setting yourself apart from the crow of clones out there.
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